Courtship and dating are some of the least discussed topics in the church.Yet dating has caused the most havoc, destroyed countless lives, resulted in unwanted pregnancies and abortions, and even split churches apart.• There are no boundaries or ethics in this type of relationship.Thus, what initially starts off as French kissing quickly accelerates to petting, fondling, and then full-blown sexual intimacy.• Although they are committed to one another as “boyfriend and girlfriend” they most often end their relationship after several months when one “feels a crush” for someone else.
Dating is an unbiblical method crafted by the world with no boundaries or ethics with the following assumed rules and values: • Two people can mutually claim to be “boyfriend and girlfriend” if they are physically attracted to one another and (this is the litmus test) have a crush and claim each other for themselves in a special relationship.
Since most of the church doesn’t teach on this subject, a vacuum exists resulting in our teenagers adopting the worldview of popular culture.
This has led many church youth groups to become havens for dating and premarital sex.
• People should be taught to back off and not run to a person to whom they are attracted.
This is to give themselves enough time to pray, seek counsel, and hear from God about the other person before they fall hopelessly in love and reach the point where their heart has already made a choice to be with the other person–whether it be the will of God or not!
Dating is revolutionized if the following guidelines are followed: • Dating should only take place in the context of having an accompanying chaperone with young couples. Groups can go to a movie or have an outing, or go for dinner so that two people can sit together and get to know one another in the safety of other trusted believers.