I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.In a first date you are trying to make an impression.Scenario 1: Crisis If the issue is a crisis that requires a response, I will apologize, explain the situation briefly, and respond with a text or phone call.From that point on, please treat it as an unexpected emergency. But if you’re avoiding the confrontation because “his kids need him all the time,” that might be the issue right there.A man with kids has a lifetime obligation to those kids, and they will require his love, attention, and money.If you find you don’t like to share, or you just don’t like kids, that’s fine — it’s better to know this and avoid dating men with children, rather than put yourself in a situation that isn’t fair to you, him, or the kids.
If the ex is difficult, this will cause problems down the road.
The divorced dad doesn’t have to get along with his ex all the time, but if their relationship is rocky or she is a mean or difficult person, this can create strain on your relationship.
Another important issue is you: Are you really cut out for dating a single dad?
However, don’t be too quick to toss out that cute dad’s phone number.
Each divorced dad is different, and you may find one you really connect with.
Dating a divorced dad does have its challenges, but it can also be fulfilling.