When you and your friend are both in the "off-limits" camp, it's great -- it simply doesn't happen, because you both agree it's not a good move.
However, when you're in different camps, and a friend dates your ex (or vice versa), this can lead to big trouble -- anything from awkward social interactions to permanent rifts within groups of friends.
Don't overcompensate with fake happiness: You don't have to pretend to like what's happening, so don't overdo it with sappy sweet congrats and good wishes ... If you get caught in a confrontation, just smile, have a pre-planned friendly sentence or two to recite, keep it short and sweet, and move on.
Maintain your distance: You probably don't want to get any closer to the action than you need to, so when you're stuck in the same social scene, take the seat at the opposite end of the table, or strike up a conversation with the cute guy or girl at the other end of the bar.
Dear Alice, What are the pros and cons (legally and morally) of dating your 1st cousin?
To make a long story short, my cousin and I became close friends, then fell in love with each other.
Bounce helps people find happiness in the right relationship.
"I cannot see myself happy with any of them as a first wife or a spiritual wife because there is a person in the Order that I was really trying for things to work out with, but my dad would not approve it," Jennifer continues about Michael.Be honest: If you want to keep your friendship, the worst possible thing you can do is lie.For most people, when all is said and done, it will be more about how you handled the situation versus the situation itself.What won't be excused is dishonesty -- for example, making your friend believe it's "nothing serious" when it really is, or lying about where you really were on Friday night when you bailed on that group dinner.
This will destroy trust, and with it any chance of maintaining the friendship. There is probably a reason that your friend and the ex broke up in the first place, and over time your friend will most likely realize that.
The world is divided into two groups of people: those who think it's OK to date a friend's ex and those who believe it's completely off-limits.