Way to make people scared to ever look at anyone in public ever again! Can we pause and remember that, in his book, he includes a story in which a boyfriend stops by his girlfriend’s home to pick her up, and sends her back into her house to change her clothes because he finds them too sexy? I didn’t dream that story, and yes, again, it was framed positively. Yes, MARTIN: As you have gone back through the book, where have you changed your mind?
He also wrote that masturbation was sin, period, even in marriage, because sexual pleasure was always and only ever meant to be mutual, between spouses. And it scared the shit out of me and thousands of other evangelical girls. HARRIS: Honestly, I haven’t engaged that process of reading through the whole book and saying, this is what I think about all these different areas. But I think one of the things that I’m changing in my own thinking is I just think people – myself included – it’s so easy to latch on to a formula. You’ll be safe and you’ll be protected and you’ll be whatever. I don’t think that’s the way the life of faith works.
I’m trying to go back and really evaluate, you know, where did my book contribute to that? And where was that me and what I was writing, and where was that – the families and the church cultures and so on?
So I feel like I’m on the front end of a process to help people in some way if I can apologize where needed and re-evaluate where needed. I mean, “the consequences of the way people applied the book,” is Harris freaking serious with this? The problem was not that his book was any time you feel sexually attracted to someone that is not your lawfully married spouse. And then there was the story about the woman who dreamed that on her wedding day, all of her former boyfriends came up to the front and told her groom that she had given each of them a piece of her heart, and that now he would never have her whole heart? This is about his book and his teachings creating so many problems for young evangelicals that even the extremely conservative evangelical World Magazine took note and published an article expressing concern that Harris’s book had created a culture in which it was almost impossible for evangelical young people to find mates.
A group of pastors representing 2,500 churches has called on members of the Ohio House on Thursday to override Gov.The best-selling author of Christian book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" dissuaded millions from dating and sex before marriage, but now apologizes for what his book might have caused.Pastor Joshua Harris, who wrote the influential book on Christian dating when he was only 21, said he's re-thinking the lessons imparted on his 1997 book after soliciting messages from readers on how the book's affected them. And I'm planning to dig into that in the next year or two. Harris' personal responses unleashed a series of conversations from a group of critics and even resulted with a hashtag #Kiss Shame Bye for aggrieved readers who want to vent out."And I just don't think that's the way life works," he told NPR's Rachel Martin early last month.
"I don't think that's the way the life of faith works ...
"It's like, well, crap, is the biggest thing I've done in my life this really huge mistake? The prominent Christian celebrity, now 41 with three kids – two of them now in their teens – in his 17 years of marriage, wrote that Christians should veer from traditional dating as this only leads to divorce and espoused abstinence.